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'I did't even know who I was'

By Darcy L. Fargo

Darcy Fargo

May 1, 2019

If I were recounting this incident on social media, I’d likely end the post with a hashtag and the phrase, “twin problems.”

As my rather large and rather loud family gathered in my parents’ newly-remodeled kitchen for lunch on Easter Sunday, my parents had several photos on display – pictures that had been found during the renovation process.

Among the handful of images was a picture of me and my two sisters as young children. Of course, my twin sister and I were adorned in matching clothes with matching yellow barrettes in our hair, which was also cut in matching styles.

As I showed the picture to my son, Jacob, I said to him, “this is me,” pointing to the bottom right corner of the photo, “and this is Deanna.”

Deanna, my twin sister, peered over my shoulder.

“Wrong,” she said. “I’m on the right, you’re on the left.”

We asked our mother to settle the dispute.

“Deanna’s on the right, Darcy is on the left,” she said, confirming Deanna’s assertion.

I didn’t even know who I was.

As much as this incident was uniquely related to being a twin (I’m guessing most people can identify themselves in photos), I think we all have moments in which we forget who we are.

While we are children of a loving God, we don’t always act in ways that reflect that. We sin. We have feelings of loneliness and unworthiness, feelings of being unloved or being unlovable.

We forget who we are.

If we’re lucky, we have people in our lives to look over our shoulders and correct us when we lose sight of our identities in God.

Just in case you don’t have such a person, let me remind you that God loves you. Made in His image and likeness, and created out of His perfect love, you are a beloved child of God. Jesus said, in the Gospel of John, “I have loved you just as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.”

Don’t forget who you are.

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